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A Wedding Fit For The Countryside!

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Too tired, so he poses for us instead!

So Wei and I attended her cousin’s wedding in the countryside. Let me just say it was an experience uniquely its own; or so we both agreed.

 

We dropped Coffee off with the Shea’s who were more than happy to take her in(we later discovered that she was scrubbed clean by Craig and she did smell so pretty! They also spoiled her, she peed on the newspaper we provided and no where else. Herah for a successful potty training! She only managed to tear apart one tissue box that was left unwatched during the night).

 

From there we took a coach to the opposite countryside of Wei’s mother’s parents.

Carrying the bride, the groom's dad!
Her male cousin who is a year older than me on the father’s side held a three day wedding. We arrived on the second day and did little more than explore the countryside as we walked, and went upstairs to sit among the friends and other cousins we did not know who turned on the TV, played old music and proceeded to sing (it was cute but Wei wasn’t happy, she said they needed more practice). Yes, everyone smoked, everyone drank, ate and gambled. The smoking got to both Wei and I and we went outside as often as we could to help our lungs. Still, time passed (but slowly) and then we went to bed only to rise at 6am the next morning to go fetch the bride!

 

Fetching the bride was probably the main event of this day, which disappointed me some. I understand that the money likely ran short, the groom and bride were exhausted as three days of celebration are far too much but still, this being the main event seemed to catch me a little short.

Me, yeye (grandpa) and nainai (grandma)
The cars arrived all decorated, Wei and I along with our cousin’s sister and other male friends who were going to help him fetch the bride were all up and dressed and ready to go yet we still waited some time before leaving. I don’t know why either. Needless to say, we did finally leave and the drive was long but peaceful. Wei and I had the luck of being with the video man so we were the last car to drive off and we were also the one stuck behind one of the inexperienced drivers on the countryside roads. The roads back there are very narrow, too narrow to be driving cars and he almost landed in the ditch!

 

After we caught up to the groom though and the rest of the cars it was time for a short break, some fast breakfast where I tried some dumplings but wasn’t fast enough to eat too many (it was way too hot!) The man there took out his phone and started taking pictures of me, the nerve! He should have just asked me, but I feel that so rude to just take pictures of me while I am trying to eat!

 

Onwards we drove to town to try to fetch the bride.

The bride and me
When we arrive in the town (which was the size of a small city in Canada or such) Wei and I discovered we had 7 flights of stairs to climb as there was no elevator. Easy for me, but not so much for Wei, she’s not athletic so to speak. Meanwhile all this time we’d been setting off firecrackers that made Wei and I along with other party members cringe from the sound so close to us.

 

When we reached the top it is custom for them to deny us entry as they do not want their “daughter, sister, granddaughter, friend etc.” to be “taken” away by the groom. So we offered candies, money, lots of money and then when the door was opened enough we pushed our way through and helped the groom get in. Then we paid more money, gave candies to the kids and had her friends open the bedroom door where the bride was hiding out.

Wei and I

 

The bride is a very pretty woman, and at first she wore a dress of white. I am assuming they took pictures and such as we waited around for a long time with Wei and I not knowing what we should do. Then it was time to leave, the groom had to pick the bride up and carry her down the seven flights of stairs all the way to the main car where she was placed onto the seat. We all piled in our respective cars, Wei and I being graced with sitting in with the bride and groom as Wei is the elder cousin of his, and we drove a short ways to the restaurant her family had paid for us to eat at.

 

It looked as if there was going to be some performance, band, singing or karaoke but no.

Groom's boys singing KTV style
Nothing. In fact, we all had to seat ourselves, wait for the food, and unbeknownst to Wei and I until much later, we were expected to stick to a tight schedule which meant we had to eat and eat FAST! Wei was still hungry, I could have enjoyed a little more and yet here we were driving off to go back to the brides. Yes, back to the bride’s place. Here we waited once again for the groom to carry his bride up the stairs to go gather her things. Actually the groom’s men were supposed to do this but Wei and I being women decided to not do it. I would have helped but Wei didn’t want to and I think the lack of food was what really got her.

 

After that we all got back in the cars, bride’s stuff and all and then headed back for the groom’s home. It was here that we stopped yet again and waited. I don’t know what for, maybe to gather everyone on the groom’s side up but we waited a long time. Then, finally the groom began to carry his bride down the long road to her new home.

Their KTV system, which Wei says is outdated O.o looks nice to me!
However, because he had carried her up so many flights of stairs so many times he was exhausted! So his uncle carried her part way and then his father carried her the rest of the way! Just as we got there a crowed greeted us cheering, fireworks were set off right beside Wei and I so our ears rang and my leg hurt as I got hit there, Wei got hit in the head by one I think. Almost immediately everyone on that side of the family piled in the house to eat. Wei and I were just… shocked.

 

So because we were part of the groom’s party we were ushered upstairs to eat with the other friends and members of the party but by then I wasn’t really hungry. The bride and groom came in with candies and cigarettes. They ask for money (100 or 50RMb bills) and in return they give you candies if you are a woman and a cigarette if you are a man. They went around the table and when it was Wei’s and my turn they were literally blown away when we outright gave them 200.

The groom (Wei's cousin) and his bride (who is my age!)
This resulted in many many candies and a cigarette for me. We were asked yet again (something Wei and I didn’t know they could or would do) so I could only give 20RMB the next time around but it was ok.

 

After that, Wei and I saw her grandparents, received our quilt (giving grandma 100RMB for her efforts as it was very considerate and all this likely costs more than that) and then finally it was time for us to go home. We were exhausted when we got home but it felt good. We were both a little disappointed by the wedding and its organization but I am happy I could be a part of that. So all in all, it was well worth it!

 

 

 

Red Cat Firsts:

~ Going to a Chinese wedding, countryside wedding

~ Eating Ox stomach

~ Eating Chicken Kidney
~ Riding in the main car with the ride and groom
~ Giving 200RMB at a wedding
~ Spending the night in the countryside
~ Bing given a cigarette in thanks and celebration

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