A friendship with B
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i have a set of core friends that i have managed to keep since grade school. one of them is B, who i visited las april in auckland.
when i was a kid, we used to move a lot,so there was really no chance to develop a deep and meaningful friendships with anyone. until we finally settled down in davao city (southern part of the philippines) in the late 70's.
i went to an exclusive local school for boys. being a newbie, and not knowing a word of the local dialect (the local dialect is bisaya...and i only speak tagalog and english), i resorted to english to communicate. it was a lot easier because during that time, the school penalises anyone who speak in the local dialect (everyone must speak english in school or you get fined).
B was one of my oldest friends (since grade school).
this was in the 70's when life was sinple and everything seems to be going our way. we did not have the computers, cell phones and other electronic toys that this Y generation currently can't live without. and this was the year when martial law was declared. and we survived it all.
davao city is the best place to grow up with. i was lucky that my parents chose this beautiful city. i remembered the ngiht our parents told us taht we were moving to this new place. my older siblings were not too enthused with the idea because they were already teen agers and they ahd their own set of friends at school. but i did. and they were left behind. i went with my parents and they stayed in boarding houses.
B and i went to the same school all the way to college. we had shared so many firsts: first time to try weeds, drink and have girlffriends. we shared the first break ups too. i remembered the first time we got drunk and we rode the motorbike down the hill wiht our hands up in the air freewheeling (i still get jitters just remembering how stupid that was). most importantly, we survived puberty and growing up (the jury is still out there on this).
this visit in auckland had rekindled all this memories of our childhood and the assessment of our dreams...all in all , we did very well in some aspects and sucks in others. he got separated from his wife and he now has a custody of his son. he is happy raising him on his own.
as for me, i am happy to be on my own.
it was nice to see B after 10 years. it was great to renew teh friendship and re-establish teh bond that has been put on hold while we lived our own separate lives.
nothing has changed much. we are still the kids in Davao still trying to figure out what to do with our lives. the fishing trip gave us a really good time to talk about a lot of things. trying to figure out what to do with the bin full of fish we caught added to the fun.
auckland is like sydney in some ways. it is very laid back, especially where he lives. it was in the northern part of the city in a peninsula. the proximity to the waters has made the lifestyle more laid back.
it is nice to have friends that you have known all your life. friends make a place, no matter where it is, magical!
a friend is another blessing i have that i am thankful for everyday.