It's all about what you have between your ears, baby!
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People I have met lately seem to be surprised that I am single. Ok, these MEN say Iām smart, witty, funny and kindhearted, but canāt believe Iām not taken. Youāre probably wondering that too huh?
If a person (be it a man or woman) has so many good qualities but isnāt attached/married to anyone, what does it mean really? Is she just fussy, high maintenance, or just plain unlucky? All I know is that I am happy being single, and I am doing just fine without a man. But I wonāt say no to a hot guy that treats me right, and loves me more than I may love him, he he!
My response is always a typical one: Malaysian men are intimidated by me. How else can you explain it? I am smart; Iām funny, sarcastic, caring and compassionate. Guys love talking to me but canāt seem to see me as a potential mate. I used to wonder (and still do just a little bit) that perhaps itās because of how I looked, that Iām big (not every man has good taste!). But then, Iāve had my fair share of admirers (you know who you are! :P).
The locals Iāve met are very much Asian, and hence, they go for the petite, Oriental chick. So do the Mat Sallehs who want to meet an ACTUAL Asian woman. As for the admirers, they only have one filthy little thought in their heads (pick the obvious!).
So what is wrong with me?? If I knew the answer to that question, I wouldnāt be writing this blog! But, an acquaintance did happen to mention that one of the reasons why I canāt be seen as anything other than āone of the guysā is because I tend to act like one of the guys! Huh? Thatās what I asked him. Apparently, Mr Insightful said me being smart, able to tell dirty jokes, can talk sports and the world, does anything but scream āI am woman, soft and sweet!ā But isnāt that what men want??? An intelligent woman, one with wit, who also knows what he means when he curses the linesman for giving an offside when clearly it wasnāt!
Well, apparently not! Iām supposed to talk like and be a woman when speaking/chatting with a potential date/mate. How ever do I do that? Am I supposed to play the dumb blonde, so to speak? Should I be the passive party and sit back while the guy decides where to eat, what to eat and where to go to do what? āAnything is fine with me, hee hee hee!ā
No way!! Impossible. Iām not saying that I want to be dominant. But I am not going to be the āanything goesā girl either. Goodness, even I canāt stand it when I ask my date for suggestions on where to eat and he goes, āOh Iām fine with whatever!ā
Iām at the end of my proverbial rope! Please, someone tell me what it is that you look for in a woman that you pass on the one standing in front of you, with almost all desirable qualities. Iām still trying to figure out what NOT being an equal (and I will not play Paris Hilton, period!) means. Even so, I canāt play that game because Iād be cheating my date and myself of who I really am.
And whatās the deal with wonderful guy friends wanting to be with women who treat them half as good as their female friends do? Well, that is another topic for another time.