All for one and one for all: peer bonding

Turkey Travel Blog

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Group of people sending their friend to military at the bus station
The guide book said that we will hardly find people walking alone in Turkey. And it proved me right since day one I arrived and last day I left, I hardly saw solo walking there.

Turkish people are honest and expressive about their feeling and passion. What's the point of hiding anyway? They say and show love when they do. I'm actually from the closed natured culture and we sometimes leave things to be unsaid. That was why I was surprised the first time I saw 2 straight guys kissing on each other's cheeks and holding their arms together while walking. Some might see it's the culture, however, to me it's instinctive. By doing that, it gives each other trust of an always companionship without saying. However; if they do that in Thailand they will be nominated to be the next sweetest gay couple. ;)

Another observation is when I was in Antalya bus station heading to Selcuk, I heard cheering sounds and a march song like a parade, then I turned to see a big group of people (around 20-30 people) entering the station with a guy having Turkish flag covered his shoulder sitting on someone's shoulder.
Birol's friend who had to attend military service that night
They all came to send that guy on the shoulder to somewhere which I first thought he might go to some kind of competition. Then I saw another 9 group of people like this coming as well. 2 common things in every group were that they would sing the same song which sound like a football song and the cry of the guys on the shoulder and their friends. I finally found out that this is a tradition to send a man to serve military service and it's a must to do (go to military and send the soldier off). A man has a duty to serve the country (6 months for university graduation and 15 months for non university grad) and everyone is so proud that they sing in the song talking about "he's a big soldier". Friends have duties to encourage the soldier, and show him that no matter where he goes and how hard his life is going to be, he still has friends back home.
2 turkish guys walking and holding each other's arms.
This tradition doesn't only reflect the pride in Turkish military force but the commitment to friendship.

After I've seen these 2 situations, I had clearer picture of how Turkish people bond themselves with the word "Friendship". Why walking alone while they have friends who are ready to walk with them always.
Bluetraveler says:
This was a wonderful blog :))
And yes, touching is not an insulting move between friends, on the contrary it shows great friendship and deep respect. The best example is greetings, if you're good friends holding each other, kind of a hug is the proper and good way to show friendship and trust. But many countries I've visited it was so sad no one touch each other.. kind of very cold and rude I think..
Thanks for the blog I really enjoyed reading it.. I felt I miss my country so much :((
Posted on: Sep 05, 2009
the_bloodsucker says:
love every page here! =D
Posted on: May 20, 2008
dahling says:
I could noth have said it better, but they are not always outspoken. But here also, depends on the person of course (I find the women gossip a lot)
Posted on: May 19, 2008
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