Nishantha & Asiri Madusanka & Me
Day 6 Ratnapura - Negombo
That morning I packed everything and went down for breakfast. The others were all taking their time and “enjoying their vacation”. Arrrgg. Im a very impatient person and I really couldnt wait to go and see my brother. Finally we left the place after saying goodbye to the lovely people from the hotel and exchanging e-mail adressess.
We drove for a while but I have no clue for how long really.
I had no sense of time at that point. Same goes for days. I had to check what day it was several times a day, every day. In the centre of Ratnapura my nephew was standing on the side of the road and he also came into the van. He would go with us to arrange the whole thing and make up some excuse to get my brother away from the workplace. We arrived at some construction sight wich was surrounded by walls so we couldnt see anything. Andrew parked the van out of sight but still a lot of people came out of the construction area to see what was going on. My nephew went inside and we just waited. Then he came back and a tall guy who was around the same height as my nephew was walking behind him. I could see he was was way more dark skinned than I am (like my mother and other brother) He was wearing traditional clothes like a long skirt really I dont know the name. I think its just a sari for men or something, and a t-shirt. It looked very strange with my nephew next to him who is dressed pretty modern. Suddenly he stopped walking and my nephew had to talk to him and convince him to keep on walking.
I lost all hope and thought to myself that he wasn’t happy and didn’t really want to do this.. It made me feel very much lost!
My brother Nishantha
He came up to me and we shook hands. It was the most awkward moment ever. We didn’t dare to look at each other and nobody said anything. My parents were saying things like go over there and hug him. That made me very angry, the last thing you want is that anyone tells you what to do. You just dont want that. I told them I didnt want to hug him and they were all : why not blabla. SO annoying.
Then suddenly Andrew asked me if we wanted to drive to another place because my brother had told him he didnt feel that well around there with all the people from the construction place staring at us.
Ofcourse that was fine with me and we all went into the van and drove to another place just on the side of the road. From there everything was different. He was still nervous and clearly didnt know if he could or should touch me or not, but everything was different. I found out that only 3 days before he had never heard of any sister. He had no clue! Just 3 days before he heard about me on the phone from his nephew, so not even from his mother! He didnt even know my name and he had to ask me right there. He was so open and friendly and he said the most nice things. He told me everything and with everything I mean everything. He told me about a girl he likes in his village and how he wants to marry her when he is older. My nephew couldnt stop laughing and he asked him: Why are you telling her all this stuff?
Nishantha & Asiri Madusanka
And then he said: She has to know everything, she is my sister.
It made me feel so warm inside. He told me every 10 minutes that I could ask him anything I wanted. He told me he was so happy because he had a sister now. He asked me if I was happy and then he said that to him it didnt matter where I was, in Sri Lanka or the Netherlands or wherever as long as I was happy.. :) He was just the sweetest guy ever.. We talked about his life there and I asked him if he was happy.. He told me he wasn't because of all of the family problems.. I really felt bad about that :( .. We would go and do something about that for sure after this trip! My parents also agreed something really had to be done for them.. Then he asked me what my life was like.. and what my country was like.. he has no clue what the Netherlands is about.. Well what do you tell somebody about the Netherlands if its the first time they hear about it and have no idea about where this place is? I tried to explain to him that we live in a totally different climate and while it was so hot overthere it was below 0 in my country.
My nephew Asiri Madusanka
That was the first problem already! because what is below 0? He had never heard about that. Andrew tried to explain to him what that meant but that was very difficult!! There I saw the difference between his life and my life sooooo clearly. Ofcourse the clothes, the house, the culture, the language, everything was different but his world is just not bigger than that Island in the Indian Ocean! While mine really is the whole planet..
Andrew - Asiri Madusanka - Nishantha
After talking for about an hour we had to go back to his workplace to drop him and my cousin of.
On the way back in the bus my brother Nishantha was sitting in the back of the bus and I sat in front of him, but then he came to sit next to me that was so sweet :) I took some last pictures of him and then we had to say goodbye.
At that point I did not care about being calm and not scaring him or anything I just hugged him. I could not believe that I would have to leave him behind now and go back to my life in the Netherlands. I held him for a few seconds and gave him a big kiss. Same goes for my cousin, was so strange to just let them leave. They stepped out of the van and walked back to the workplace. They were waving at us the whole time untill they were out of sight.. As they were walking away I knew it was done now. Everything I came to Sri Lanka for was done.. I had seen the people I wanted to see and they were just so nice, it was a great feeling. We drove away from that place to get back to Negombo. That was still 3 or 4 hours away but it seemed much shorter to me..
Negombo > Andrew's house
It was nice that nobody talked to me at that point.
They were all talking to each other about the meeting and blahblahblah. I did not even hear them and was just very happy they didnt bother me. It gave me time to think about everything that happened to me the past few days. That is so not me.. Im someone who is very calm with stuff like this, not very emotional. I can be! but not about something like this. Or atleast I never thought I would be! I also didnt think it would change me but it did. I have a whole new family now. Before the trip I never thought I would feel it like that. They were just strangers to me who just happened to be family by blood. But that turned out to be so different.. Nishantha was actually my brother..
Negombo > Sri Lankan snacks. Milk Rice and Coconut Cake
After arriving back in Negombo Andrew took us to his house to meet his family.
Such a lovely family! He has a very nice house where he lives with his wife Rosita, his 2 daughters Malki & Tania, a dog and a parrot. A great family! They were just so sweet :)
Negombo > Andrew's Family
Tania - Rosita - Malki
We had tea and Sri Lankan snacks like Milk Rice and some Cake with Coconut. We talked about other children from the Netherlands who were adopted and Andrew showed me some pictures of them. After that we went into the yard and took some pictures.
It was time to go. I say goodbye to the family and we drove to the harbour to see the boats and take some pictures there. It was so pretty! So many colourfull boats everywhere! A very pretty sight that gave you the impression you were somewhere in the Carribean instead of Sri Lanka. After all this Andrew took us back to the hotel.
We didn't want to say goodbye yet so we decided to all have dinner together the next evening. After that I went up to my room and just went to read a book untill I fell asleep. I woke up to have dinner but I was just too tired to eat. After dinner I went to bed immediatley. I really wanted to go home now. It had been a great trip but I just felt like going home..
Negombo > Andrew's Family & Me.
Me - Rosita - Malki - Tania - Andrew