concubine in a massage parlour
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While out one night my Aussie friends took me for a massage. Hidden behind some high rise apartment blocks was a bustling entertainment district. Huge billboards and signs lit with lurid neon colours, advertised the karaoke bars, clubs, restaurants, massage parlours, and mahjong dens. The streets were crowded with touts. It looked a lot like the soaplands in Japan. We went in to a large building that looked like a spa with some girls in tight red dresses at the entrance and reception. It was all kind of kinky but I wasn't interested in anything but a “normal massage”. An attendant handed us a locker key and towels. We showered and sat in the steam room for a bit. When we got out we put on silk trunks and bathrobes and headed up to the rooms.
In SW China the concubine tradition lives on this time men from Hong Kong take mistresses are from China. These men spend the weekends with their concubines and their children (I once taught in a village kindergarten filled with these offspring) and the weekdays with their legitimate families in Hong Kong. They find the women in massage parlours or karaoke bars. Much less than having any stigma attached to them these women live pampered lives of luxury supported by the HK sugar daddies. I Thailand I also saw this medieval practice it’s probably widespread n other undeveloped nations where the gap between rich and poor is great.
I’m not a prude but it doesn’t make sense to me at all: for starters, it’s unnecessary burden, most men work hard enough to support one family without additional ones. It’s a waste of resources, once they can provide for one family these men invest more money on additional dependants. It’s irresponsible, many of the offspring lack registration and other identification putting them at high risk. It promotes the wrong cultural messages, concubines are like status symbols in these cultures. I personally think the men are exploitive and the women are mercenary, with the roles of predator and prey often changing. Anyhow, how can there be love in this type of purely selfish relationship?