Funeral ceremony Lombok Reviews
Bhudist funeral ceremony Jul 28, 2008
We met Wydiah 'cause she was a waitress at our favourite restaurant in Sengiggi. We met almost every evening and sometimes during the daytime and became friends, of course. One evening after dining at her restaurant, she invited us for the next day to come with her and her husband to her village (where she lived as a child) because there would be a funeral ceremony. We were excited and anxious at the same time but didn't want to miss out on this one.
We picked her up the next day near her house and drove almost an hour to the north of Lombok (I don't remember the name of the village). Lombok's main religion is Islam, but Wydiah grew up in an Bhudist village, very rare on Lombok. There were 6 dead people allready burried weeks/months ago. This ceremony should help the spirits to leave earth definitely and quietly, with peace of mind. We were welcomed as if we were King and Queen and stayed one full day among the villagers.
There was a big kitchen built outside where the women cooked for all the people of the village and the guests. When I think again of the food, I start crying again (spicey as hell!). After this remarkable lunch the ceremony started. People walked to the graves and brought the clothes, personal belongings etc. of the deceased. A lot of things we didn't understand, there was some praying and story telling. Then Wydiah told us the most important thing was going to happen. Six of the villagers were acting as if they were one of the deceased. Wydiah explained that the spirit of the deceased was floating into the 'actor' so he could say the last words he actually said when living and could tell the villagers how he died. The experience was overwhelming and very emotionally. The real husbands, wifes, children were crying as if their beloved one was still there. They kissed the 'actor', hugged him, asked questions.... We stood there for an hour with our mouths wide open!
After the ceremony Wydiah took us to the house of her parents in the village and treated us with (not so spicey) fish saté and fresh drinks.
An unforgettable memory! Not only the ceremony but for sure the hospitality of the villagers.
Part of the Java, Lombok, Sri Lanka July 2008 travel blog
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